Mum, 18, vows to ‘never have another child’ after her eight-month-old daughter died at home – The Sun

A HEARTBROKEN young mother has vowed not to have any more children after her "beautiful" eight-month-old baby passed away at home.

Kayla Weeks, 18, was left devastated after her daughter Bonnie-Olivia died of SUDI (Sudden Unexplained Death in Infancy) in March.

Also known as "cot death" and SIDS, SUDI is responsible for 300 infant deaths every year in the UK and is the name given to the condition where an otherwise healthy baby passes away unexpectedly.

The grieving mum said: "When she was born, she saved my life. She gave me a purpose, she was such an amazing baby.

"Everyone said they felt like she had been there before. She was such a good baby, she slept through the night and she was beautiful."

Although it's been seven months since her daughter passed away, Kayla says she can't bear to look at another baby and said: "I'll never get over it."

It's for this reason that Kayla says she'll never have any more children.

She said: "I do not want to have another, she was my only one. I had a flat and it was just me and Bonnie – she was my best friend.

"Everyone said she lit up the room she was in."

Kayla lived in Colchester, Essex, with Bonnie while her ex-boyfriend Jake Fitt, 21, used to look after their daughter every weekend at his home in Basildon.

The dad recalled: "I had her on the weekend and on the Monday she passed away.

What is sudden infant death syndrome and what are the causes?

  • Most sudden and unexplained deaths happen during the first six months of a baby's life
  • Infants born early or with a low birthweight are usually at greater risk of the syndrome
  • Baby boys are usually more commonly affected by sudden infant death syndrome
  • It usually happens when a baby is asleep, although it can happen when they are awake
  • The exact cause is unknown, but a number of things are thought to be a factor
  • Getting tangled in bedding, tobacco smoke, a minor illness or a breathing obstruction can also be a factor
  • Co-sleeping – where parents sleep with their baby on a bed, sofa or chair – is also thought to be associated with sudden infant death syndrome

"I was round my new girlfriend's house and I got a phone call from her mother saying [Bonnie wasn't] breathing.

"I spun my car around as quickly as I could – it was the worst day of my life."

Describing his daughter, Jake said: "She was a real character for her age.

"Anywhere she went, she was the centre of the room."

On what would have been Bonnie's first birthday, Kayla hosted a memorial party inviting people to remember her daughter and donate money to the Lullaby Trust – a charity devoted to raising awareness for SUDI.

Kayla said: "We had pictures of her everywhere and a table of all her clothes and a timetable of pictures.

"It was wicked, then afterwards we went to her grave and all sang her Happy Birthday."

The day before the memorial party, Jake says she was struggling with his daughter's death and felt comforted by her presence.

He said: "I was really down and I went to work with my dad.

"We were working and this big orange butterfly came down and stayed with me on my hand for half an hour.

"It flew off and I thought that was Bonnie letting us know to not be sad. Twenty minutes later, it came back and sat on my shoulder and in my hand.

"There's no doubt in my mind that was her, it was a real comfort."

As Bonnie was the first great-grandchild on his side of the family, Jake added: "The family is heartbroken.

"The family remembers every day – I go up to see her every Sunday, everything is about Bonnie.
"She will never be forgotten. There's a memorial in my Nan's garden too."

Jake is running 11 miles on Christmas Day in memory of his daughter and to raise money for The Lullaby Trust.

In just two days, he's already raised over £1,275.

He said: "I just want to raise some money to do something positive.

"It's been a very hard time but that's another reason I want to do it. It has got me down but I want to get up and do something."

Click here to donate to Jake's JustGiving page.

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