DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my husband died suddenly two years ago, I’ve really missed sex – but I feel it’s a bit of a taboo subject.
Now I’ve got close to a new guy, but I’m not sure if it’s too early to get into a new relationship – or how other people will react. I feel guilty.
I’m 44 and my husband was 46 when he died. We were married for 15 years. Being a widow so young is really hard.
None of my friends can relate and I often feel lonely. I also crave passion and intimacy.
The guy I’ve started seeing is 39.
He has been a friend for years and is keen to take things further, although he is being patient. But sleeping with him so soon feels like I’m betraying my husband’s memory.
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And I don’t want people to judge me or to think I have forgotten him already.
DEIDRE SAYS: You are coping with a traumatic loss but that doesn’t mean you no longer crave closeness and intimacy.
Your feelings are completely natural and are certainly not a betrayal of his memory.
Don’t worry what others think – this is your life.
It would really help if you joined Widowed And Young (widowedandyoung.org.uk), a group for people widowed under the age of 51.
My Bereavement support pack explains the emotions you may go through and has links to counselling organisations to try.
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