DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though my sex drive has disappeared, my partner has been pressuring me to sleep with him.
He says he needs sex and that if I’m not in the mood, I should make an effort for his sake. But I don’t want to force myself just to please him.
I’m a woman of 27 and he’s 28. We have been together 18 months.
The reason I’ve gone off sex is because I’m under a lot of stress at work and with family issues.
Instead of being supportive, my partner has made me feel worse. I don’t feel an emotional connection any more, so I’m never in the mood to get intimate.
It’s led to arguments and we’re stuck in a vicious cycle. I’m wondering if I should leave him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Stress does affect libido but, rather than being understanding, your partner has piled on more pressure.
You should never feel obliged to have sex when you don’t want to.
If you want to save your relationship, you need to tell him how you feel. Explain that you need support, not pressure, to get your sex life and relationship back on track.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship should help.
But his lack of empathy, patience and understanding are red flags, and it may be time to walk away.
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