A WOMAN'S boyfriend asked her to pool their finances together, but that means she will pay for his child support and she doesn't want to.
In an anonymous post the woman revealed on Reddit that she wasn't comfortable paying for his child support to his ex-wife and three children.
Many couples have a joint account but that doesn't mean it works for everyone, and in modern times lots of couples choose to have separate bank accounts.
She posted on the subreddit AITA to ask people for advice in telling her husband she does not want a joint bank account.
In the post, she said: "My boyfriend and I make a comparable amount of money. He is older than me and has three kids from past relationships. I have none."
She adds that her boyfriend has said that in order to move forward with their relationship that he would expect the couple to pool their finances into one account.
He has apparently also said that having a joint account while they both have separate accounts on the side would not work.
She wrote: "He believes that us having one account to join shared expenses and then our individual accounts with leftovers is deceptive and hiding money."
She says she doesn't want one joint account as she ultimately doesn't want to pay for his child support and that because his children are growing up, larger expenses such as a car and college will soon be expected.
An additional factor to her not wanting to have a joint account is the fact that his ex-wife doesn't work so she feels she shouldn't be on the 'financial hook' when the children's own mum isn't.
She ends the post saying she feels guilty and asks users for advice on telling her boyfriend that she isn't comfortable with a joint account and coming up with a solution.
Pretty much all the users who commented on the forum pointed at the massive red flags her boyfriend is sending and told her to run for the hills.
One user's comment reached over 20k likes: "DO NOT DO IT! RUN THE OTHER WAY, OR YOU WILL BE SUBSIDISING HIS KIDS AND THE EX. NTA. He calls individual accounts deceptive and hiding money? For real?"
Another user replied: "It's convenient that her BF wants to do something that will ONLY benefits him. I think he sees this woman as the meal ticket to making his life more comfortable. OP should be running away!"
A third user responded: "NTA. Run, run fast and run far. Financial control is one of many red flags. If you make your own money and don’t want a joint account that should not be a deal breaker to a LTR. No reason why you guys can’t have a joint account for bills and outings, while maintaining separate accounts for personal spending. You shouldn’t be paying his child support or anything of the like."
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